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Would you treat someone who supports you like this?

The next time you come looking for this, keep in mind that this was originally posted on here in 2008.  Also keep in mind the message was sent to me in 2003.

A LOT has happened since 2008, mainly in 2013.  This is a part of what transpired, a part of what became my memoir.  It does not define who I am as a “fan” of this person or how much I was a “fan” of this person or how much I am a “fan” of this person now.

Sorry, but you would’ve had to have experienced it to understand what I’m saying.  Then again, you would probably never understand.


The following is an excerpt from a message I received from a musician’s “manager”.  I use that word loosely because she can’t manage her way out of a paper bag.

I attended many of this musician’s concerts, paying a lot of money to see him perform.  I even contributed a lot of cash to an alleged charity this artist was performing on behalf of.  I never did anything wrong at any of the shows.  When I asked for clarification from the “manager” regarding this message, all I got was ignored.  As you can probably guess from reading this, they are a couple of washed-up two-bits struggling to stay alive in the music biz after 20 years.

I will add my comments after certain sections…

I wanted to send you a quick note to address a situation that has been brought to our attention.  It seems there remains some undeniable and concerning issues over your very enthusiastic way of supporting Alan and his music and how you handle dealing with other fans at times, some who have supported Alan since day one, twenty years ago.  New Year’s Eve is the topic at hand.  Please remember that the fans have been arranging their own seating and tickets and accommodation for many years and it would be best if that remained the case.  Everyone should sit and stay wherever they like.  We don’t want to frustrate or alienate the Wits End Pub or the Delta and their staff.

At this point in reading the message, I wanted to know exactly what the “undeniable and concerning issues” were.  I went to this person’s shows, paid my hard-earned money to support him and his “manager”, never said a bad word about the guy (up to this point any way–and never said anything bad about his “manager” either–that would change after this one).  The only encounters I had with other fans were on this musician’s web site where he had a message board.  I did meet a few in person but never had any altercations that I can recall.  And I certainly did not arrange seating or hotel accommodations for anyone and didn’t appreciate being accused of doing so.  Why would I do that?  I was travelling well over 500 miles to go to this show.  I didn’t even know where I was going to be staying, not much anyone else!  As for frustrating or alienating the Wit’s End Pub or the Delta, I wasn’t sure how she thought I was going to do that.  The pub was where the show was.  I’d been there once prior and all I did was eat and watch an acoustic concert by this musician.  As for the Delta, I’d never even stayed there prior to this one time (and at the time of this message, hadn’t stayed there at all!).  I didn’t know anyone at these locations.  How was I going to alienate or frustrate them? 
Also, something we don’t always make public (so why are you doing so now?) is that Marci and Donna are part of Alan’s business team.  They are fans and often like to be able to come out and be fans with their friends, but they do in fact represent Alan and I. 
First of all, the bitch didn’t need to inform me of this.  I already knew it and so did a lot of others.  The two twits had fucking TOLD us!  DUH!  Knowing these two twits and knowing they represent this “manager” and Alan, all I could think was “good luck”!  You’d be better off being represented by the Pillsbury Doughboy…then again, they both LOOKED like the Pillsbury Doughboy… 
So if they speak to an issue, they speak for us as well.  (What issue were they speaking about? I still have yet to know!) 
We realize you are now a strong supporter of Alan and his career and both he and I are grateful for this…
But you have a strange way of showing it, bitch… 
However, if your enthusiasm manifests or misconstrues itself to look like bullying or being overbearing…
Whoa!  Who is the one being a bully and overbearing?  I wasn’t doing anything wrong and you come along and jot this lovely (not) note to me, bitch!  FUCK YOU! 
it will definitely become an issue of major concern to the running of Alan’s fan-based website and fan following in generally, especially his convention…
Really?  How so?  And the funny thing is, he never had another convention!  The first one was a joke anyway!  Again, they quickly forget who put them where they are and who pays them so they can put food on their table…they’re just SO grateful! 
We want you to enjoy the experience of being on the board as a true Alan supporter. (Sure you do/did…that’s why you sent me this note, right?  God you are such a BITCH!) 
We only ask that you look carefully at your approach and that you appreciate the loyalty and sensitivity of others when speaking about Alan in any forum. 
Of course, just like all the other whores do, right?  Oh, if only you knew exactly WHAT was said by OTHERS in some of the forums regarding Alan that I have been on, your head would spin.  Some VERY interesting things were said both in private messages via Alan’s site and in various off-site message boards and chat rooms, as well as in person…so don’t go telling me to be loyal and sensitive to others when talking about Alan, bitch!  Loyal and sensitive to what?  The fact that they’re telling me their past experiences with Alan and their inner most desires with Alan?  And that’s coming from the “fans”.  You should see what Alan himself has to say on social media sites and in emails.  It makes what the “fans” say tame! Get real, bitch! 
We do recognize and appreciate your enthusiasm (yeah, tell me another one…if you recognized and appreciated it so much why’d you do this to me?) and thank you for your cooperation on this matter (like we just finished a big business lunch or something)…
Like any normal person would, I did ask for an explanation.  And asked.  And asked.  I wrote a seven page letter to the bitch asking.  And never got a reply.  And I figured out why.  Because this woman is a two-timing bitch who is so cowardly and could not face me because she knew she was wrong in her accusations.  She didn’t have the decency ONCE to apologize for anything she said.  She just acted like nothing ever happened.  And now she wonders why so many things have been said about her and Alan all over the Internet.  In a way I feel bad for Alan and the fact that he has this person for a “manager”.  On the other hand, he’s been an asshole too and they really deserve each other.

And that’s why, folks, I wrote “HOW I PISSED OFF A ROCK STAR”…
And here is the actual message:
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I'm a writer. I'm also a wife and a parent who works too much and lives too little. In addition to writing I also love to read, listen to music, travel, cook, I enjoy looking for bargains at flea markets or thrift stores, Christmas, football and of course writing! How did I come up with the title of my blog? Two things: 1. I live in New England (duh) and 2. Canadian singer Alan Frew once arrogantly told me to "get a New England life"--again--DUH! I already HAVE one!