The Best Career I’ll Ever Have

The company that pays me always harks on their employees furthering their “careers” within the company. In the almost 15 years I’ve been with said company, I’ve never felt that what I currently do, or what I have done in the past, is a “career”. To me, it’s always just been a job. Something that pays the bills.

Merriam-Webster’s definition of “career” is: “a profession for which one trains and which is undertaken as a permanent calling” or “a field for or pursuit of consecutive progressive achievement especially in public, professional, or business life”. None of the positions I have held at said company fit either of these definitions. The definition of “job” is more suited: “a regular remunerative position” or “a specific duty, role, or function”.

When thinking about the term “career”, only one thing comes to mind: motherhood. Now many can rightfully argue that motherhood is more a “job” than a “career”, with using the definition of “something that has to be done” or “an undertaking requiring unusual exertion”. However, “motherhood” is a profession for which one trains (constantly) and which is undertaken as a permanent calling. Many people change their “careers”; but you can never change the “career” of being a mother. Since the definition of “career” uses the phrase “permanent calling”, I’d say “motherhood” is definitely the only “career” in the world. No other “job” or “career” is more permanent than giving birth to another human being and raising that human into an adult. And even as an adult still being their mother. Forever and ever. Through thick and thin.

Unlike someone who may decide to change their “career” from truck driver to plumber, there is no changing the motherhood “career”. It is 24/7, 365, until the day you die. And even then, you’re still a mother. But instead of being a mother who is there for their child every day, you are a mother who is missed every day by their child.

Are there a lot of rewards with this career? Way more than there are with the paying job. Are there are a lot of headaches? Of course. What worthwhile career doesn’t have those? There are many more years to go in my motherhood career. But for now I can look back on the 17 years I’ve already been working this career and be proud of what I have accomplished.

Sunday Night at the Fights

I haven’t watched even five minutes of the Academy Awards since Titanic was nominated. So what do I do last night for the first time in my life? Watch the entire Academy Awards from start to finish.

The three female hosts had me in stitches. Encanto won. An openly gay actress won. A deaf man won. Questlove won. A twenty-year-old won her first Oscar. There was a lot of much needed diversity. What wasn’t needed was the bru-ha-ha that stemmed from a joke.

Was the joke necessary? No. But coming from a stand-up comedian, I guess it was expected. But that doesn’t make it right. Was the slap necessary? No. But coming from a husband obviously standing up for his wife, I guess it was expected. But that doesn’t make it right either.

You know who really got hurt in this whole thing? Jada. Here is a courageous woman, not ashamed of her appearance, at an awards show to support her husband. She is then made the butt of a joke by a comedian presenter, looking as uncomfortable in her seat at the Dolby as I probably was in my seat at home. She is then probably as shocked as the rest of the world when her husband storms the stage and slaps the presenter for saying what he said. Imagine if he had punched the presenter? Imagine if the presenter had slapped him back? It could’ve been much worse. But it was bad enough. And from that moment on, the rest of the show became uncomfortable for me.

Even more embarrassing, for her at least (I felt embarrassed for her, even if she didn’t feel embarrassed for herself), was when her husband won for Best Actor and then stood there in all hypocrisy crying “peace and love” all over the place. Please. You just hit another man for his comments about your wife’s hair. Don’t feed us the “peace and love” bullshit.

I had no idea Jada had alopecia. In fact, the only other person I know of who has the condition is Ayanna Pressley. When I saw Jada on the red carpet before the show began and noticed her hair, I honestly thought it was for a movie role. So I can kind of see where the presenter was coming from.

For the record, nobody seemed to notice, care or mention John Travolta’s bald head. But does anyone remember when he butchered Idina Menzel’s name? Yes. Of course they do. And forever everyone will remember the slap heard, and felt, around Hollywood.

No Apologies?

I’d say the majority of Americans would agree with President Biden that Putin “cannot remain in power”. But if Biden was really trying to express “moral outrage” and didn’t really mean to say that Putin “cannot remain in power”, then what he should’ve said was that he “felt moral outrage”. Stating that you feel “moral outrage” and that Putin “cannot remain in power” are two totally different things.

If you feel that Putin “cannot remain in power”, many will be lead to believe that you intend to do something about him not remaining in power. It’s like Spider-Man saying of any of his nemeses “they must be stopped” but not doing anything about stopping them.

Biden went on to say: “I was expressing my outrage. He shouldn’t remain in power. Just like, you know, bad people shouldn’t continue to do bad things. But it doesn’t mean we have a fundamental policy to do anything to take Putin down in any way.”

Spidey would agree about the bad people, but at least he would do something about them, not just express his “moral outrage” and state that they “cannot remain in power”. I guess that’s where Zelensky and the Ukrainians or the citizens of Russia will come in.

Rock and Roll Hall of Fame: Change the Name

With Dolly Parton’s recent humble rejection of her Rock and Roll Hall of Fame nomination, it occurred to me how many artists are part of the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame but really wouldn’t be considered “rock and roll” artists. There are many.

After Parton announced her desire to be removed from the nomination list, the Hall responded by saying: “From its inception, rock and roll has had deep roots in rhythm & blues and country music. It is not defined by any one genre, rather a sound that moved youth culture. Dolly Parton’s music impacted a generation of young fans and influenced countless artists that followed. Her nomination to be considered for induction into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame followed the same process as all other artists who have been considered.”

With that being said, and although may be true in some part, I, as well as many others, believe it’s time to change the name of this museum to the Music Hall of Fame. Because if rock and roll is not defined by any one genre, then why do you have artists from many different genres under one roof and call it the “Rock and Roll Hall of Fame”?

If you have a museum that has the likes of Leonard Cohen and Nirvana or Rush and Public Enemy or even ELO and Hank Williams, then it’s not just “rock and roll”. It’s music of all different kinds. (note: both Cohen and Rush are Canadian acts and are already part of the Canadian Music Hall of Fame (emphasis on “music”) ).

For the record, Dolly’s name is still listed on the ballot and as of this writing she is shown as being in fourth place as of today. I voted for her. Not just because of her music, which is not rock and roll in style, but because she is a class act human being. And if they based their inductions solely on that, Dolly would’ve been selected long ago.

Light Over Darkness

There’s a lot that has been already said regarding the Russian invasion of Ukraine. But the main thing that should be said is that it should never have happened.

In less than a week hundreds of thousands of Ukrainians have become refugees, fleeing for their lives from the only country they have ever known. All because of a very small man with a fragile ego.

At this writing the future of Kyiv is uncertain, as are the lives of Ukrainians that remain in the country. May their strength and pride continue to aid them in their fight against evil. Thoughts and unity with them always.