Posted in narcissists and psychopaths, narcissm, Things that piss me off

The Case Is Far From Being Closed

Most sane Americans wonder what wonderful things Trump supporters are referring to when they applaud him and say “he’s the best President ever”, “he’s done such great things”, “he’s wonderful” and whatever other kind of bullshit they can blow up the narcissist’s ass.  Of course when you ask them what it is he’s done so great, most can’t even speak.  I have yet to actually get an answer from any SHITHOLE supporter about what he’s done so great.

So what I like to do when they feed SHITHOLE with accolades that just make his SHITHOLE ego even bigger, is put the shoe on the other foot.  Because they, along with SHITHOLE, are nothing but a bunch of hypocrites.

I wonder what they would be saying if it had been any other presidential candidate other than Trump who stood on a stage and told Russia to find his opponent’s 30,000 emails.  What if it had been Obama?  Or should we use someone from their own party such as Bush?  Or Reagan?  Would they have cheered George H. W. Bush on if he called on the Russians to do something against his opponent?  What if it had been any of those presidents who mocked people with disabilities?  Or stated how they liked to grab women by their pussies?  Would SHITHOLE supporters like those candidates just as much as they like SHITHOLE when he said it?  Would SHITHOLE supporters like any other president who caged people seeking asylum?  Would they like any other President who keeps threatening to take away their healthcare or fucked with their taxes so much that they ended up paying the IRS for the first time in their lives?  Would they have liked Obama if he called other Presidents, Senators or other members of Congress names?  Would they have liked any other president if they had called anyone names?

Would they have liked any other President if they had banned Muslims (or people of any other religion) from entering the country, only weeks after taking office?

Would they have liked any other president if they had shut down the government for over a month, causing 800,000 people to go without pay?  Would they have liked any other president if they carried on and on like a spoiled brat about wanting a fucking wall to make it more difficult for people with skin colors he doesn’t like to enter the United States?  I wonder how they would have liked Obama if Congress decided to hire a Special Counsel to investigate his criminal activity.  Oh that’s right.  Obama didn’t have any criminal activity which would cause the hire of a Special Counsel.

The point I’m trying to make is that SHITHOLE “supporters” really aren’t “supporting” anything but their own stupidity.  They are hypocrites in the hole so deep they can’t get out.  And they are stuck.  Because you, me and the lamppost know that if any of the atrocities that SHITHOLE has committed were done by any other President (especially the black one), we wouldn’t stop hearing about it.  And rightfully so.

That’s why SHITHOLE and his supporters will not stop hearing about Robert Muelller, Russian collusion, subpoenas, indictments, how much money SHITHOLE never had, how racist SHITHOLE is, how sexist SHITHOLE is, how much of a criminal SHITHOLE is, the list goes on and on.  McConnell and the rest of the crooked GOP can say “case closed” as much as they want but the case wouldn’t be closed if it were any other president, and with this “president”, the case is far from being closed.

Posted in writing

Exactly When Does Our Country Come First?

That was the question Henry Winkler asked on Twitter yesterday in the wake of the release of the redacted Mueller report.  And it’s a question every American should be asking themselves.

As a country we are at a crossroads regarding what should happen next with the person who calls himself the “leader” of America (a/k/a SHITHOLE).  He feels confident with his corrupt AG Bastard Barr (I call him his AG because he certainly is not the AG for America–not with the games he’s playing with America regarding a report about his “boss”).  Bastard Barr is a “yes” man.  I know there’s controversy over whether SHITHOLE should be impeached (which he certainly could and should be, even with the amount of redacted evidence in the report).  However, it’s very likely Bastard Barr will be impeached instead.  So, what to do with SHITHOLE?  Well, according to the calendar, this time next year we will be the midst of many presidential debates.  There is even a Republican going up against SHITHOLE (Bill Weld) and, don’t knock him till you know him, folks, he could beat SHITHOLE.  Wouldn’t that be a hoot?

There are scenarios that can happen that I doubt SHITHOLE has even considered.  Because, as we know, SHITHOLE is not the brightest bulb in America.  Maybe Russia.  But not America.

First of all, assuming he faces a Democrat, it’s not going to be a Democrat who, like Clinton, had tons of baggage.  Yes, there will be baggage.  They all have it.  But there isn’t going to be a Benghazi SHITHOLE can toss at them.  There isn’t going to be 30,000 emails he can ask Russia to find.  And we all know he’s going to have the Russians do something.  I’m sure the FBI, CIA and any other intelligence agency knows he’s going to have the Russians do something also.

You can take any potential Democratic candidate and say, “okay, what can SHITHOLE throw at this one?”.  How’s it going to look to everyone but his sheep if SHITHOLE stands on a debate stage calling Elizabeth Warren “Pocahontas”?  Or if he calls Pete Buttigieg a “fag”?  Beto an “Irish drunk”?  Kamala and Cory “niggers”?  Because as we all know SHITHOLE hates women, homosexuals and people of color, among other things.  I’m sure he’d come up with plenty for Biden and Biden would chew him up and spit him out.  He’s not going to be able to have his Russian buddies debate for him. And it’s not going to be as easy for him this time around.

Let’s say a Democrat wins.  Of course we’ve already been warned of how SHITHOLE is going to react:  like a two-year-old who lost his binkie.  Get ready for the cries of “voter fraud”, the “thousands of people being bused from MA to NH to vote” (I’m still waiting to see the evidence of this from Stephen “Gargamel” Miller), don’t even be surprised if he says the Russians did it!  But it will be must-see-TV to watch his fat ass being hauled out of the White House by the military police if he refuses to leave.  That would be better than an impeachment.  It would be our opportunity to watch him fall from the highest pinnacle.  And it would be glorious.

Remember what happened in November 2018?  We flipped the House.  It was a surprise to many in the GOP, but not a surprise to America.  America is sick of the shit going on in Washington and they spoke up at the polls.  They will speak even louder next November.  It is not out of the question that the Senate could be flipped as well.  Because many seats are up for grabs (Turtleface McConnell and “grab-my-pearls” Graham are two of them).

Then there’s the case of SHITHOLE “miraculously” “winning” the “presidency” again.  If the Democrats still have the House and take the Senate?  Impeachment would be starting before he could take his “oath”.  Even if they don’t take the Senate.  And that would be almost as beautiful as seeing his ass hauled out of the White House by military police.

So that’s how we can make America come first, folks.  We have the power to do it, in whatever way it happens.  If by chance SHITHOLE is impeached before then or dies, great.  If not, we know what we need to do.

Posted in Asperger's, autism

Autism Awareness Month

April is Autism Awareness Month.

To those who are not aware of autism and who it may affect, I want to broaden your mind.  Although I could fill this post, and many more posts, with the facts about autism, or Autism Spectrum Disorder, as it’s more commonly known, I’ll only mention a few:

  1.  ASD affects 1 in 68 children.
  2. ASD is more common than childhood cancer, diabetes and AIDS combined.  It’s one of the fastest-growing developmental disorders in the United States.
  3. You cannot get ASD from vaccines.
  4. I have a sister and a daughter who have ASD.

To best broaden the minds of those not as aware of autism as others may be, I want to describe my own ASD experiences.  As I said above, I do have a sister and a daughter with ASD.  They are two of the most special and important people in my life.  Not because they have ASD.  But because of how remarkable they are.

My sister Peggy is 35 years old.  Had she been born before 1984 she probably would not be alive today.  She is a twin, born eight weeks prematurely.  She died, and was resuscitated, three times after being born.  At three days old she developed hydrocephalus or a build-up of fluid in the brain.  She was fitted with a hydrocephalus shunt which will remain inside her for the rest of her life.  She has had it malfunction many times throughout her life and as she grew, she had to have it lengthened.

Peggy didn’t walk until she was three and began talking at age five.  It was quite clear from an early age Peggy was autistic.  She would constantly flap her arms and hands, rock excessively (she was known for destroying many beds and couches from her rocking!) and became obsessed with letters and numbers.  After trying to mainstream her into the public school system, they discovered Peggy would best thrive at a residential school.  Having Peggy leave our home and attend and live at a school forty miles away was very difficult.  We only got to see her on the weekends and the transition from one extreme to the other was rough on all of us.  At age 22 Peggy graduated from The Evergreen Center and moved on to where she currently is.  She lives in a group home not very far from me.  She attends a day program and is very active in the community.  When I see her each week I can tell she loves where she lives.  One of her favorite activities is going out with me each weekend and going to lunch and doing a little shopping.  She still flaps and rocks now and then, but it’s nothing like it used to be.  She hasn’t destroyed furniture in a long time!  Her obsessions are now play balls and clocks.  Her number fascination still stands with her love of the numbers 3, 4, 8 and 11.  In fact, all her clocks, always must have one hand on the 11 and the other on the 3.  So in Peggy’s world it’s always either 11:15 or 3:55.

One thing I love about Peggy is that she’ll love you unconditionally.  She is the easiest to please and the easiest member of the family to get along with.  And contrary to the fact that people with ASD tend to not be affectionate, Peggy is just the opposite.  She’s also a social butterfly and we always say that if Peggy were not on the spectrum, she’d probably be out and about all the time.

One thing I’ve learned from her is how to love life.  Because as tough as Peggy’s life has been, she still seems to really love it.


When you have a child, you always want everything perfect.  You don’t want to believe there could be anything wrong with your child.  You don’t want to have in the back of your head the thought of “what if my child has ASD”?

After eight years of trying, Melanie was born in 2005.  It had been a completely normal pregnancy.  I didn’t even have morning sickness.  Aside from her being born via C-section, everything was fine.  She slept through the night at two weeks.  And there were hiccups along the way but we got over them.

She rolled over at three months.  Her first tooth came in at four months.  Was not a finicky eater until she was introduced to solid food.  Made great eye contact and reacted appropriately to those around her.  She smiled a lot.  Then it was discovered she was not as quick to sit up as most six-month-olds.  She could but it seemed to be an effort for her.

Her pediatrician referred us to Early Intervention.  From them we learned Melanie had low muscle tone.  Which is also why when she began to crawl she “combat crawled” by slithering around on her stomach.  She received occupational and physical therapy.  Then speech therapy when she wasn’t speaking as much as she should have been for a one-year-old.

We really began noticing things with Melanie when preschool began.  She didn’t socialize with the other kids.  She refused to eat or use the bathroom at school.  She had great separation anxiety.

As she grew older more things became apparent:  she didn’t like loud noises, especially in public places (such as the hand dryers in restrooms), there were certain words she would freak out at hearing (mainly “accident”, “death” and “blind”), there were certain things she didn’t like because they were “creepy” or “felt weird”.  I really knew something was wrong when she was seven and was invited to a friend’s birthday party at Chuck E. Cheese.  Up to that point she had seen all the commercials on TV for the pizza place and always talked about wanting to go.  For Melanie the party was a disaster.  She had what would become the first of many meltdowns.  To this day when we throw a birthday party we cannot sing “Happy Birthday” because she gets upset.

I knew from my experience with my sister, Melanie did not have autism.  But I highly suspected she had Asperger’s.  My suspicions were confirmed when Melanie was nine and we finally, after months of calling and researching, was finally able to connect with a doctor who would make a clear diagnosis.

That was five years ago and it’s been a long road since then.  We’ve gone through countless therapy sessions, ABA therapy (Applied Behavioral  Analysis), cognitive behavioral therapy, medications, meltdowns, refusals to attend school, reward charts, routine adjustments.  You name it, we’re still going through it.  As we delve deep into the teen years, we know there’s a lot ahead for us.  All I know is that we’ve made it this far so we’re going to keep going.  I know Melanie has the potential and ability to one day drive a car and hold down a job.  She’s already expressed an interest in getting a little job next year when she turns 15.

I look at my daughter with pride when I see how far she has come and how much she has achieved even at a high anxiety level.  Her loves have changed from her childhood fascination with The Flintstones and Looney Tunes to adoring The Muppets, The Fraggles, anything Jim Henson, Minecraft and the TV show “Riverdale”.  She’s gone from wanting to be a chef someday to wanting to be an interior designer.  Tomorrow it’ll probably be something else.  And that’s okay.  She has a creative mind and amazes me with the stories she comes up with.  I always tell Melanie that she can be whatever she wants to be.  Maybe she’ll be a writer.  Who knows?  For Melanie the sky’s the limit.


Posted in Things that make you say "hmm...", Things that piss me off

A not exciting but still important post

This post is going to be about something that’s not very exciting, but it’s very important.  It’s something that most of us have, yet most don’t really think about.  Until we need it.  It’s called insurance.

There are countless different kinds of insurance you can have:  auto, home, renters, life, pet, insurance for priceless pieces of jewelry or art (sometimes covered under homeowner’s, but often offered individually), even individual insurance options for body parts.  You name it, you can probably get insurance for it.  With all the different kinds of insurance available out there for just about anything, why is it so many people balk at having health insurance?  Especially our not-so-wonderful “president” and his moronic posse called the GOP.

All but two states require you have auto insurance—New Hampshire and Virginia.  And although it’s not mandatory, you’re still responsible if you cause an accident.  And you’re stupid if you don’t have it.  Not only for yourself but for others.

For most people who have a mortgage on their home or rent an apartment, it’s usually a requirement to have some kind of homeowner’s or renter’s insurance.  It’s stupid if you don’t because insurance is there to protect you.  Even as a liability.  If someone visited your home, fell down your icy stairs and broke their leg or worse, was killed, that’s a liability on you.  If you’re not protected by insurance, good luck.

Life insurance is probably the most overlooked, yet valuable, even affordable, type of insurance.  No, it’s not meant for you directly, but for your family to use indirectly for you in your passing.  Would you expect your family to go into bankruptcy because they couldn’t afford to bury you?  Do you think everything can be paid for with a GoFundMe page?  Please.  That’s relying on others who may or may not come through for you.  Life insurance is a definite.  Just don’t default on your premiums.  Which you shouldn’t with any kind of insurance.  That would just be stupid.

And now, let’s discuss the dreaded health insurance.  Believe it or not, it is actually easier to get health insurance than it is to get life insurance.  With life insurance, you can be turned down because of a pre-existing condition.  But guess what?  With health insurance under the Affordable Care Act, health insurers can no longer charge you more or deny you or your child coverage because of a pre-existing health condition.  They cannot limit benefits for that condition either.  Once you have insurance, they can’t refuse to cover treatment for your pre-existing condition.

But our not-so-wonderful “president” and his moronic posse called the GOP want to change that.  First they just wanted to have it so insurers could deny you if you have a pre-existing condition.  Now they just want EVERYONE to NOT EVEN HAVE HEALTH INSURANCE!  ISN’T THAT WONDERFUL????  There are 30 million Americans who risk losing their health insurance benefits if these assholes get their way.  The lucky ones will be left with paying way more than they are now for much less coverage.

Before you say “but I don’t have a pre-existing condition”, ask yourself if you are human.  If you ARE human, which I assume anyone reading this would be, then, guess what?  You DO have a pre-existing condition.  You may not have arthritis now, but chances are you will.  You may not have any one of countless kinds of cancers, diseases, ailments, mystery illnesses, but there’s a very strong chance you will.  If you are female and are planning on having children, there’s a very good chance you’ll have a pre-existing condition called “pregnancy”.  If you have children, you should KNOW there’s going to be some kind of pre-existing condition/need for medical care somewhere along the line.  I could go on and on.

Before you say “but I don’t want to have to pay for health insurance”, ask yourself why not?  You pay for auto insurance, don’t you?  Possibly homeowners or renter’s? Maybe even pet insurance?  You don’t squawk at paying for any of that, do you?  And you’re probably paying a hell of a lot more for the pet insurance than you would be for health insurance.  If you’re not paying for any kind of insurance, you either need to stop ripping someone off or get a life.  Or both.

The fact that these assholes are even CONSIDERING doing this to Americans should tell EVERY AMERICAN exactly what these assholes think of you.  THEY DON’T CARE ABOUT YOU.  They really don’t.  They didn’t two years ago when they tried to take our insurance away and they still don’t.  It’s sickening to know this is what they think of us.  Our own government dislikes its own citizens so much they want to kill them.  Because taking away health insurance for millions will exactly cause that to happen.